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Don’t Open the Floodgate!!!

Proverbs 17:14GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)

14 Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate,
    so stop before the argument gets out of control.

It happened again and again.

That weekend every time I opened my Bible this verse was right there!!  And it only happened THAT weekend!

I usually take some time right away in the morning, as I drink my coffee,  to read my Bible or pray or just journal.  I find that usually, if I don’t do it right away, it just won’t get done and I like to start off my day with some God time.

We had decided to go on a camping trip that weekend.  I picked the place and we ended up north in a small town.  We found a nice campground and it was a mostly nice weekend.  Except for the argument brewing and the storm that hit both nights.  And the heavy rain that poured down in a leaky camper from late afternoon until morning.  Heavy enough that it kept us inside the camper. 7 kids- one a baby in a leaky camper.

Not a pretty picture.

The oldest had his bike stolen right before we took that trip.  It was tied down to the camper in the middle of several bikes.  His bike was pretty new.  He had bought it himself.  We prayed for that bike to be returned that weekend.

I was a bit cranky.

But every time I opened my Bible pages fell open to that page and that verse was right there.  Every single time!

I started to pay attention after the 3rd time.   Guess what?  God knows what we need.  I needed that verse that weekend.  I still have to learn and relearn that verse, but that weekend, it was alive, it was needed, and He had my attention.

 God’s word is like that.

I had a choice that weekend.  Open the floodgate of an argument, or let it go and realize there are more important things than another argument.  Like making the trip fun for all.  Like praying that those trees above us don’t come crashing down in the heavy storms that were raging around us.  Like keeping the baby entertained and out of the card game that went on and on and on and on…….. Like comforting a 12 year old who had his brand new bought with his own money bike stolen right before we left.

I could have gotten mad and started an argument with the husband about things that happened on that trip.  So many things happened that weekend, our fault, no fault of ours, and beyond our control things.  I was beginning to lose it really!!  But that wouldn’t have helped at all.

Besides God kept reminding me of the truth He was trying to teach me.   It didn’t matter what I was looking for in my Bible, where I opened it to, every time it opened to that page and right there before me were those words:

Proverbs 17:14New American Standard Bible (NASB)

14 The beginning of strife is like letting out water,
So abandon the quarrel before it breaks out.

We always have a choice.  Get angry and start an argument, open that floodgate that can’t easily be closed again.  Or make the choice to stop the argument and talk about the issue in a way that encourages all parties.  Maybe taking a breather is needed and coming back to the issue when it can be discussed.

I have so much to learn.  No, I don’t have it down completely yet.  Still working on it but I am doing much better.  There are improvements.  But as you will see in future posts, God is really working on my in the area of my marriage.  This was just one lesson.  I found a couple of books that God directed me to and I have been reading and learning from.   Some things, for me, have been kind of DUH moments as I have been reading.  Also, I have had some good discussions that I am going to share here over the next few weeks.

Found this gem today as I was preparing to work on this post!!
Found this gem today as I was preparing to work on this post!!

Hopefully, I will be able to encourage you all too!!  Marriage is a work in progress.    And LORD knows, I am a work in PROGRESS!!!!!




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