Its a good story to remember. In home. At work. At church. At school. At home, I have this thing I do. When I ask a question and it gets answered “Not Me” I yell for “Not Me” to come and do whatever is needed. We can’t always do that at work, church or school I suppose. Sometimes I wish I could!
I am about to become an elders wife. My husband feels like he needs to get more involved in church. We have been discussing the sort of things in this little story that happen all the time, even at church. Then we read an article from a man named Thom Schultz called, “The Rise of the Dones“.
Its about the people in churches who are always there and are the “doers” of the church. They can be relied on to do the work, whatever is needed.
According to Thom Schultz, they are getting tired of the doing and quitting church completely left and right. They are still believers, they still love God. They just are done with the church. He says that there is a growing trend of people who are the most active, the ones who serve as leaders, who serve and whose financial contributions the church relies on, are leaving the organized church. The problem is that once they leave, no one is taking their place.
Another reason they are leaving, is that they are tired of being told what to do. I get that. You can only hear the same messages, regurgitated and repeated over and over so many times before you get tired. I just want to do what I want to do!!
Its an interesting thing Hubby and I have noticed over the years we have been church goers. In the past, we have been the doers. We have been the ones who were at church a lot. We spent a lot of time with church friends, doing church stuff. I have not been for quite a while now. I am choosing to not. Hubby quit doing quite a while before I did. We got burned and burned out. Our family suffered during that time. Its hard to raise a family when your gone.
Its been a discussion at our house for the last few months and we have decided that its time for him to get involved again.
Now, doing things for the church body is a good thing, don’t get me wrong. Someone needs to clean the church. Someone needs to take care of the people and the organizations within a church. The problem is that it usually falls on a few people rather on all the people. If a few people are doing all the work, those few people get burned out. They get tired.
If everyone stepped up and did one or two jobs and did them well, there would not be the problem we have. If everyone actually did the job they were assigned there would not be the problems we have now. I am not talking just about our church body, I am generalizing here. I saw these problems at the last church we were at. I see these problems happening all the time.
It has to stop. In our house, we have sort of a rule. You are part of the family, and as such, you need to help get the chores done. If there is work to be done, and your available, get up and help get it done. But I need to talk to them and tell them or they don’t know it needs doing.
Maybe something like that needs to be implemented in our church.
Something to think about I guess.