It has been a good week. Much to smile about this week. Though the beginning was not so good. I got worked up and worried about too many things and then Wednesday, I read a post from “Two are Better than One” and got my mind back in order. That helped me so much!!
That made me really smile!
That day also, I realized that I have really good kids. A huge realization for me actually. Yea I brag about them all the time, but part of me still believes that they are bad.
They are not bad. They are good kids who occasionally do bad things. A different thing entirely. It is hard to explain I guess…
Here is what happened this week.
On Wednesday, Son #4 came home from work and asked me if I had anything I needed doing. I told him what was needed and he did it! Then he also, patiently, tutored his younger brother in his math, even when his younger brother got irritated with himself for the silly mistakes he had made. Then doing Chemistry also.
That was huge.
It is not easy to help someone who is angry. Especially when they are angry and then having to fix the work they did. But he did and very patiently.
The next day, I had some cleaning that needed doing. Son #5 came and helped me do it. On His OWN. Even cleaning out the icky, needed to be cleaned a week ago, litter boxes!!
Later that night, no one had emptied the dishwasher all day. The sink was full of dishes and I was making dinner, adding more dishes. I opened the dishwasher and just left it. I was too busy making dinner to empty it myself. The 2 youngest saw the need and emptied the dishwasher! It wasn’t their job that day. But they saw the need and filled the need.
Sure they do dumb things sometimes. Believe it or not, so do I.
(I know- I was shocked too!!)
We all do. But in general, I have to remind myself not to fall into that rut of believing they are bad kids who occasionally do good things. That is “Stinkin Thinkin”!!
Even my oldest, who likes to tell me he is evil, is not. I tell him, I have no evil children. NONE. He too is a good kid who occasionally does dumb things.
(Yes, I know that some of them just do more dumb things than others. Boy do I know that!!)
Believe it or not, I have learned a few things over the years. This one, I guess I have to relearn a few times in order to really get it. I am trying, in this blog, to put those lessons down in words so that I recall them and that some of you don’t have to learn them the hard way.
I find it hard to explain how I do things, and I am trying to learn how to write out what I have learned over the years, but I find that it is hard to explain what I just do. I have made more mistakes over the years, still do. So I guess I could start there.
I found parents who do things right or that I admire, and tried to imitate them. That is my advice for you today. Find successful parents in your life and do what they do. Don’t read the latest study or current fad parenting advice. I did that too. Most of the time that ended up being just that. The latest fad.
Love your kids. Get to know your kids. Take the time to learn to raise them right. It is the best thing you will ever do.
I linked this post to Trent’s Weekly Smile. Go check it out for some fun positive posts.