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Suck it Up Buttercup…. What I Have Learned From the Couch.

Its been kind of a sporadic year for writing. I have much to tell you all about, that is for sure. Like, an update on the whole DNR thing. Spoiler alert: not much to report….

We have had a lot of amazing things and a lot of frustrating things. Here is a post about what I have been dealing with.

The other day I read a blog post a friend of mine wrote. She had been talking to her son about self care. He is a personal trainer at a gym and she encourages women to be the best they can be by sharing her own story. He encouraged her to keep telling women that it is so important for them to take time to help themselves get healthy. He told her that he hears excuses all the time for why they can’t take time for themselves.

Kimberly Krueger of FEW, Fellowship of Extraordinary Women, is who I am referring to. If you want some powerful encouragement, check out her blog.

Think about your own excuses. I can think of my own.
I don’t have time.
I can’t take time from the family.
I can’t take money from the family.
I just need to take care of them.
I will be fine.
You name it, I have thought of it. And used it for an excuse. We all have at one time or another. But you see, that is where the problem lies. We finally end up sick and exhausted and a mess. Not able to help our families and using up all those precious resources anyways.
The last few years I have found myself not able to keep up in my daily routine. I have no energy to go hiking like I used to, and love to do, by the way. I have no energy to take the kids to the zoo or museum. I don’t get outside and play ball with them like I used to.
In my head I would hear my body cry out “I’m tired” or “help” but I would ignore that because I am fine. Suck it up, buttercup. I have things to do, people to help, gardens to care for.
Fast forward to today. I have been on the couch for the last 2 and a half months. I have no energy for much more that a little bit of work. Somedays not even that. I have now a body who is rebelling against itself and rejects most foods. I am suddenly allergic to 80% of our foods. Well, suddenly isn’t accurate is it. If you look at what I wrote above, it has come upon me over time, finally catching up and knocking me down.
If I eat over an ounce of solid food, I am in serious pain and will soon be getting rid of whatever I ate. Quickly. I can do more liquid so I am basically living off of protein powder and Bolthouse smoothies.
My gallbladder has been removed as that was part of the problem. But still not the root. All my blood work says, Suck it up buttercup, you are fine. It seems the root is that I am allergic to lots of foods. Why it happened this way, I do not know. All I know is that I need to eliminate foods that are currently causing me big problems and take care of my body until I can slowly start to heal.
Now.. This isn’t about whining and earning sympathy.
This is about how we as mothers tend to suck things up a little too much. Martyr syndrome some might call it. I would just call it, Motherhood. We just are in a place where everyone else’s needs come first. Everything else needs to be cared for before we are cared for.
Guess what? Its not healthy.
Yep, sometimes we need to learn the hard way, as I have. My hope for you is that you don’t have to. My goal is sharing my story, is that YOU start doing what YOU need to do to get healthy. For me, I needed to realize that some foods are causing me problems and I need to eliminate them. I needed to get a Natural Doc to help me figure out what is REALLY going on in my body.
Try this checklist:
What is it that you do for your own well being??
Do you take some time each day for yourself?
What do you do for your own self care?
Do you eat healthy? Or do you clear your children’s plates as you clean up the kitchen after everyone else has eaten?
Do you do some sort of exercise that you love to do?
Do you take time for your own “time out”?
Does guilt follow you on your “time out”?
Do you have that little voice inside your head that is telling you something? What is it saying?
Does doing anything outside of your normal routine seem just too hard? Why?
Does the thought of taking time for yourself cause you to go into severe “mommy-guilt”? Why?
Do you need to make an appointment with a GOOD health provider, natural or medical, to make sure you are healthy?
What is one change you could do today for yourself?
Making one change in your eating habits?
Making one change in your time for yourself?
Making one change in your activity/exercise?
Making one change in your thoughts?
Doing one thing to change yourself to help yourself is key. One thing at a time over time, builds up into lasting changes. Don’t make this overwhelming to you and your family. Just choose ONE thing today that you can do to make yourself healthier and stronger.
Tomorrow choose ONE more thing. And the next and the next.
Do it for you. And in doing that, you will help your family.
I would love to hear how my story has impacted you. And if you have chosen to try ONE thing today, what is it??

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