family history · Get it Together · Vicki's Ramblings

“They are late for everything.”

I overheard this from an old friend as I rushed in to the event, with several of the kids. She had her back to me and didn’t see me arrive, flushed and rushed, irritated with several of the kids, yet again.

That remark stung.

So much so that I remember it like it was yesterday.

I don’t intend to be late for everything. It just happens. Sure lots of people with several kids can get to most events on time or early.

I sometimes can.

Now, granted, I do have a problem judging time accurately. I will very often misjudge the amount of time it takes to prepare or to drive to an event. I don’t know why, I just do. Always have.

It’s a gift…..hehe..

But add to it what it takes to get some people in the household motivated to get moving- “Because. We. Have. TO. LEAVE. NOW”!


One can’t tie his shoes in the car.

One has to make sure his hair looks good.

Another needs to be sent back to change their clothes yet again.

Someone can’t find the other shoe.

Wait. Did we make sure the dog is in the house?

And these are the TEENAGERS!! Imagine what it was like when they were all little!!!

It was a good thing there were older siblings along to make sure everyone had pants on!! Shoes? Well, that was optional for the littles. OH! And to make sure we have everyone. Seriously. I don’t know how many times we started to leave and I had forgotten to make sure we had everyone and someone conveniently called out, “wait for ______!”

Very helpful.

Obviously, that child we needed to wait for was old enough to be out of a car seat, which was, back then, about 5 or so. Hopefully, they came out with shoes and pants on or they just went as is.

Sure I have tried making sure they know the time is coming and we have to leave by such and such a time.

Sure I have tried giving them a heads up that we leave in 5 min.

I tried getting everyone ready an hour early. Then something always happened and we still were rushing out the door.

Most of the time, I just end up tired.

I even have been known to just leave without them. My mantra is “If you are in the van when I leave, you GET to go with me!”

That is a motivational statement. (You have my permission to Tweet that.)

Honestly, I try to be on time. And when I am, there is a CELEBRATION!! Seriously, I do! I have earned it!!

That comment stung. Still does. I have forgiven that person. I am sure that I have said things that sting to many others without realizing it.

Another area I am working on.

Let’s just agree to give each other grace in the moments. Grace to be late- you don’t know what has happened along the way. Grace to accidentally say stinging things- you don’t know what has happened in their day either.

But, be honest. “Hey, that stung.” “I’m so sorry.”

Done. Move on. Learn from it. Its so much easier than having it stuck in your head years later. And best of all, does not form a wedge in a relationship. Some people like to keep their wedgies, and that is fine. Its their choice. Uncomfortable and ugly. But its their choice.

I am choosing no wedgie.

So, to that person who just might read this blog post, “Hey. That really stung. But I forgive you.”



family history · Homeschool · Vicki's Ramblings

School is Back in Session- “Focus, Baby! Focus”

Which means I am busy again.

For lots of other people it means freedom. For me, it means I need to pay attention to what they are doing and make sure they do it well.

At least as we start the year…..

Everyone else dreads summer and Christmas breaks because their kids are home again. I don’t exactly dread school starting, but it does come close.

I like the freedom we all have over the summer, however, we get lazy. We do get a lot of projects done and my work force is awesome. We can work on projects together and most of the time its fun. We chat and talk and get the job done.

We get lazy in that we have no schedule so some teens get up at the crack of noon….

We get lazy in that we take naps in the afternoons and spend too much time on video games. (Ok- I take naps because I don’t sleep til noon…..)

It is good for us to have a schedule again. I wake 2 of them up around 830. The other is up before I am most mornings. Then we get started on school sometime around 9 for some. 10 for one. I join in as soon as my chores are done.

It’s so weird that I only have 3 at home!! Until last spring, when Horse Daughter got married, we had 5 kids at home. Then she left and Son #4 left for college the end of August……. Still adjusting to all of that. I didn’t even write blog posts about them!

We are doing a Virtual school again this year. Last year, I was very disappointed to see their grades fall and that some were allowed to get away with things they should not have. I like the schedule of the virtual school and I like that they have teachers to guide them- especially in the upper grades. I do not like that sometimes they get away with things and that their grades dropped.

Last year was difficult for us all. Hubby and I both struggled health wise. We could not keep up with their lessons and monitoring their work. They struggled because their parents didn’t feel good for months on end. Parents are not supposed to be sick!!

This year, I am hoping to do better. Hubby and I are feeling quite a bit better- though both of us still struggle health-wise. We are able to deal with those times as they come and do what we can. For schooling this year, we chose to do more project based classes that will force me to be more of an active participant in their work. It’s nice that we have that option now with this program.

I have set my mind on their schooling- I have changed my focus- to be more aware of their needs above the needs of the house and farm.

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Truthfully, I lost my focus for a time.

It happens sometimes.

The important part is that we recognize it and come back. It’s all part of life, isn’t it??

This year our focus is schooling and finding the problem areas some of us have. I am waiting to hear back from a clinic near us which will do some testing for one of the kids. He has struggled through the years in his schooling and I did think he would grow out of it. I also thought that since he had been in public school for a couple of years and then in Virtual school for a couple of years, that his teachers would see a problem too.

They didn’t. I had to bring up the question and only then did the teacher agree.

Ugh….. I wish I would have done something so much sooner.

He is one reason why I need to get my focus back. I have another one that I am hoping to get tested after this one is done for the same reasons.


I have told my kids that so many times.. “Focus, Baby! Focus”!! Then God started pointing me to it too…. Focus… Fix my gaze. At first, I didn’t like being told that I needed to focus. Soon I realized that I needed to focus.

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At some point, I want to write a devotional about what God showed me through those words. Maybe I will start a regular blog posting once a week. That would be a great place to start.. Add a hashtag…. Of course, someone will have to teach me that part!!

So, school has started and we are all busy getting our work done. We still need to work out our schedule a little better. There are a few glitches in our system, but it will come together soon enough. They are doing a great job so far. I am hoping that continues. Hopefully, I can sneak some time in to write more on this blog and get a book done.

Which reminds me- I have exciting and nerve-wracking news!! The OTHER thing I am focusing on this school year. I have signed a contract with a self publishing company that is connected with a much larger publishing company and I am going to get one of my books published!! It is a picture book that I attempted to get published a few years ago, but didn’t have the support and help to get it done right through that company.

This time, I have an entire support system available to me to get this done and done well.

“Focus, Baby! Focus!!”


Enough time here..

Have a blessed day,