family history · Get it Together · Vicki's Ramblings

“They are late for everything.”

I overheard this from an old friend as I rushed in to the event, with several of the kids. She had her back to me and didn’t see me arrive, flushed and rushed, irritated with several of the kids, yet again.

That remark stung.

So much so that I remember it like it was yesterday.

I don’t intend to be late for everything. It just happens. Sure lots of people with several kids can get to most events on time or early.

I sometimes can.

Now, granted, I do have a problem judging time accurately. I will very often misjudge the amount of time it takes to prepare or to drive to an event. I don’t know why, I just do. Always have.

It’s a gift…..hehe..

But add to it what it takes to get some people in the household motivated to get moving- “Because. We. Have. TO. LEAVE. NOW”!


One can’t tie his shoes in the car.

One has to make sure his hair looks good.

Another needs to be sent back to change their clothes yet again.

Someone can’t find the other shoe.

Wait. Did we make sure the dog is in the house?

And these are the TEENAGERS!! Imagine what it was like when they were all little!!!

It was a good thing there were older siblings along to make sure everyone had pants on!! Shoes? Well, that was optional for the littles. OH! And to make sure we have everyone. Seriously. I don’t know how many times we started to leave and I had forgotten to make sure we had everyone and someone conveniently called out, “wait for ______!”

Very helpful.

Obviously, that child we needed to wait for was old enough to be out of a car seat, which was, back then, about 5 or so. Hopefully, they came out with shoes and pants on or they just went as is.

Sure I have tried making sure they know the time is coming and we have to leave by such and such a time.

Sure I have tried giving them a heads up that we leave in 5 min.

I tried getting everyone ready an hour early. Then something always happened and we still were rushing out the door.

Most of the time, I just end up tired.

I even have been known to just leave without them. My mantra is “If you are in the van when I leave, you GET to go with me!”

That is a motivational statement. (You have my permission to Tweet that.)

Honestly, I try to be on time. And when I am, there is a CELEBRATION!! Seriously, I do! I have earned it!!

That comment stung. Still does. I have forgiven that person. I am sure that I have said things that sting to many others without realizing it.

Another area I am working on.

Let’s just agree to give each other grace in the moments. Grace to be late- you don’t know what has happened along the way. Grace to accidentally say stinging things- you don’t know what has happened in their day either.

But, be honest. “Hey, that stung.” “I’m so sorry.”

Done. Move on. Learn from it. Its so much easier than having it stuck in your head years later. And best of all, does not form a wedge in a relationship. Some people like to keep their wedgies, and that is fine. Its their choice. Uncomfortable and ugly. But its their choice.

I am choosing no wedgie.

So, to that person who just might read this blog post, “Hey. That really stung. But I forgive you.”



Get it Together · The Bible

Focus, Baby, Focus- Keeping Our Eyes

Raise your hand if you are a Mom….

Raise your hand if you are a woman. Men too for that matter!

(I say women because I AM a woman- I know, shocker…. But MEN can also struggle in this.)

Raise your hand if you immediately go to the worst possible scenario whenever anything happens.

Yea. Me to..

Kids make a bad choice and immediately I am a terrible Mom who has no right raising children.

Hubby does something, anything, and right away he is not good enough.

Get a pain, anywhere, and its cancerous. Or at least going to cause pain forever. (Its like I am WebMD or something!)

Focus, Baby, Focus.

A few years ago, the Lord got my attention by bringing my attention to Heb. 12:2:

keeping our eyes on Jesus, the source and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that lay before Him endured a cross and despised the shame and has sat down at the right hand of God’s throne. Hebrews 12:2 –

Something I sorely needed. Little did I know that would evolve into several years now of work keeping my eyes on Jesus. And several pages of verses and notes of what I have learned. Well, really am trying to learn.

I am, as we all are, a work in progress.

How was I supposed to know that I needed to keep my eyes on Jesus because the next few years were going to bring some trials that I didn’t really want to deal with. No one WANTS to go through trying times.

But yet, we do. Every day we have things in our lives causing us to question who we are. Its crazy isn’t it??

So many things in the media pulling us this way and that way. Then add in Social Media telling us that we should do this or that. Or boycott this or that. Encouraging our feelings of failure because we don’t look like that person or follow this diet or lifestyle.


What are we to focus on!!

God. Jesus. Holy Spirit. Truth.

Here are some truths.

Just a few years ago, we didn’t know this much about anything.

Just a few years ago, we didn’t have knowledge of this much bad news.

Just a few years ago, we didn’t have this much competition to be the best whatever..

Think about that for a little bit. Sure there was stuff in the news, but we were not immersed in it like we are now. It is crazy the amount of stuff we are inundated with. And if we aren’t careful, we could easily get sucked down into a mess.

But let’s bring it back to us.. You and I… Just in our everyday lives there is so much pulling us to do this, to be that.. To be the perfect mom…

Guess what? We aren’t.

We are who we are and that’s ok.

Sure there are always areas we can do better in. Always there are those things. But start by fixing your eyes on Truth. What IS the truth about you??

  • You are God’s child. Whether you believe in Him or not, you are still His.
  • He made you perfect and beautiful.
  • You are His beloved.
  • You are Called and Chosen by God for such a time as this.
  • You are forgiven. No matter what you have done, when you come before Him, you are forgiven.
  • You are a conqueror and victorious.
  • You are a Co-Heir with Christ Jesus.
  • Best of all, because you are, you are WORTHY.


These are the truth that God says about you. When those lies start to fill your head, as they do mine, or when you get overwhelmed by what is going on in the world around you, Fix Your Eyes on the One who Loves You.

Focus, Baby, Focus!

I am going to try to do a few blog posts about this topic- maybe make it a little devotional. I feel like we all need to learn to fix our eyes on Jesus. Especially in this trying time.